Keeping Busy.

Gonna mix it up a bit, add some quotes at the start to make you think about the topic, before I start actually getting down to the nitty gritty of Love. Well, the best I can anyway. =P I don't necessarily agree with all of these, but they're there to make you think, not force an opinion on you. I understand that there's alot of them, but bear with me, eh?


Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command.

Love is not enough. It must be the foundation, the cornerstone - but not the complete structure. It is much too pliable, too yielding.

Love isn't a decision. It's a feeling. If we could decide who we loved, it would be much simpler, but much less magical.

I don’t think anyone can DO anything that would make him worthy of love. Love is a gift and cannot be earned. It can only be given.

To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return. To just give. That takes courage, because we don't want to fall on our faces or leave ourselves open to hurt.

Honesty is the only way with anyone, when you'll be so close as to be living inside each other's skins.

When you give each other everything, it becomes an even trade. Each wins all.

Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to be involved with them. Love is not a bandage to cover wounds.

What else is love but understanding and rejoicing in the fact that another person lives, acts, and experiences otherwise than we do…?

Love is everything it's cracked up to be…It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.

All love that has not friendship for its base, is like a mansion built upon sand.

Beyond happiness or unhappiness, though it is both things, love is intensity; it does not give us eternity but life, that second in which the doors of time and space open just a crack: here is there and now is always.

I love you - those three words have my life in them.

I have loved to the point of madness;
That which is called madness,
That which to me,
Is the only sensible way to love.

A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature
To stop speech when words become superfluous.

Love is that condition in which
The happiness of another person
Is essential to your own.

The bottom line is that (a) people are never perfect, but love can be, (b) that is the one and only way that the mediocre and vile can be transformed, and (c) doing that makes it that. We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.

Okay. Now we get to me, the opinion that you have been dearly waiting for. I already did a blog/note about Love, but I felt I had to do another. Why? Don't know. Just one of those things I guess. Moving on.

The Greek Language, from what I understand, has multiple words for love.

Eros: Romantic love, passionate love, sensual. It does not have to be sexual in nature, though it can be used that way.
Agape: General affection. It can be used the way we do. "I loved that steak." "I love my car." "I love my wife." Etc.
Philias: Friendship.
Storge: Natural affection, i.e. parents for kids.
Thelema: Desire to do something.

I'm going to be talking about Eros, though the others are also interesting and all that. But they don't get to me like the idea of Eros. I may also repeat some ideas from before, but y'know, it happens. Now, finally, my ideas.

True love. It's one of those things that has stories, poems, and other media, written about it every day. And probably has been written about every day since humans became humans, and will probably be written about every day until we all die. Because in a sense, love is what we're all living for. Maybe you're living for a couple of the loves, but I think, deep down inside, most people are living for love. Maybe they have it. Maybe they want it. It depends. But love, truly, makes the world go 'round. Well, a better way to put it is that love make us make the world go 'round.

An interesting idea is one brought up in one of the quotes, that we should spend time creating the perfect love, and not looking for the perfect lover. Now, that doesn't mean you can love anyone, because that is obviously false. You probably can't love most people. But there's still a sizable portion of people who you CAN love. Or maybe there's one true person, but I doubt it. You find someone who you're capable of loving. I think you'll know it, when it happens. Even I've experienced it. It's just something you know. You don't love them immediately, it's not love at first sight, which I think people confuse it with. And maybe that's where the idea came from. But I think it's just a feeling you get. A feeling that if the conditions were right, then you could end up in love with this person. And maybe the conditions aren't right, and never will be right, and you have to move on, and accept it. Who knows.

Then, you've got the slight paradox and conundrum of connection. When you're in love (Well this is all just hypothetical pretty much since I've never been in it but you understand) you want to be connected to that person. Well, you ARE connected. But how far do you take it? Are you one person? What does independence and dependence mean when you're in love? Are you supposed to drop everything for love, real true love that you feel in your heart? Well what you think is love anyway. If it's true, and we're all living our life for love, then maybe it's not so radical to give up our life for love. Another quote that I could not find is something like this, "With you, I should love to live, and be ready to die." Is that just some stalker guy talking, or is it actually entirely reasonable and meaningful, because people are so changed when in love?

I mean, think about it. A widely accepted fact is that we can only rely on ourselves. We will never have anybody else, forever. I say it. I believe it. But I also believe that to be in love, you've got to let go of that, or else you'll never really be in love. I don't know. I guess my kind of idea of the world of love is a very strange one. The sky is bright purple, there's no gravity, and everything is upsidedown. Maybe that makes no sense, but it does to me. Because I think the ideas and ideals that appear, and are true in the regular world, no longer apply in the world of love to some extent. I mean, sure, you don't want to go crazy to be in love. But maybe you've got to. Maybe love is crazy, and in spite of everything, it's the part of you, the naive little part of you that's telling you "Fuck it, go for it. It's worth it." So you dive in to the ocean of love, hoping that you'll instinctively know how to swim, or find something that floats that you can hang on to.

And how much do you take for love? When your 'lover' is being rude, or selfish, or treating you badly, how much do you take for love? Well, the argument can be made that you can never love a person who treats you bad, but meh. Everybody has their faults, and moments of weakness. Nobody's perfect, and they can't always treat you like you are. I mean, sure, you probably can't love a guy/girl who's ALWAYS treating you bad, but what if it's just every so often? So what happens when they don't, and they get a bit snappy? Maybe that's just be being technical, but I think I get the point across. Of how much do you take, in the name of love, because you're bound to have to deal with some shit from your partner.

And of course, the big question. How do you know it's love. I don't think the idea that "You just know in your heart." is right, because alot of people are stupid, and infatuation can be taken as love. And hearts and minds can be fooled. So how do you REALLY know that it's love, the type of love that it might be worth it to throw your life, well your current life, away for, so that you can make a new one? Maybe you don't. Maybe you just hope, and all you've got during the dive in to the ocean is the hope that it's not a 1 foot deep shallow filled with rocks. And if it is, hopefully you can pull yourself together again.

Heh. Maybe I can explain better when I've been through it all. For now, I'm just stuck at "Capable of Love." =) G'night folks.